When I first started dealing with symptoms of cancer – but before I knew I had cancer – I made a decision. That decision was to be “out” publicly about my situation. That means I wrote about it on my blog, as well as on Facebook and Twitter. I made this choice for a couple of reasons. The first is just because it seemed natural for me. The second was because if I came out with a positive attitude to go along with my positive prognosis I would set the tone for how people would deal with me. And I wanted people to be positive towards me and share their upbeat stories while not sharing those stories that would bring me down. It worked, too.>
Today I read the article “Living With Cancer: For the Birds” in the New York Times. The author, Susan Gubar, is battling ovarian cancer and has been writing a series of articles about her experiences. This article struck a chord with me as she names the various types of people (birds) who are less than welcome conversation partners. For example The Crows share their “predatory pre-grieving” and The Ostriches keep their heads in the sand and comment on anything EXCEPT cancer. I feel so lucky that I have NONE of these birds in my life and I know part of the reason is I came out right away setting a positive tone.
I read the comments on the above article and got a charge out of two commenter submissions: THE OWLS (those who truly give a hoot) and THE LARKS (who sang when the first phase of treatment was over.) I am so very lucky with my friends here in Mazatlan and my family, too. My life is full of Larks and Owls, for sure.
I’ve been having a ball these last couple of weeks as my sisters visited to see for themselves that I was ok. And of course, I am! We had so much fun playing with the dogs, cooking meals, going out to the theater, art openings, and surfing competitions. We went to Stone Island, walked on the malecon, ate a ton of chocolate raisins, and laughed our heads off. Paul reveled in having a house full of Dardarian sisters, too.
The weather while they were here was almost perfect. It might have been a bit cool in the morning a couple of days but they both got plenty of sun as they escaped that Northern winter weather. We are already starting to think about our next extended get together – using a private group on Glassboard instead of endless emails. We also like to use Google hangouts so that all three of us can video chat.
I have most of a week yet before my next chemotherapy, I had better get busy on my latest knitting project, work on my volunteer chores for El Recreo and have a little fun with my puppies and Paul. Hasta pronto!